Saturday, January 30, 2016

Do me a favor...don't gossip

"Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people." Socrates

Confession: I HATE gossip. I always have. I probably always will. There is nothing appealing to me about sitting around and doing nothing but talking bad about others. 

Recently, I was the victim of gossip.

I'm not talking your run of the mill, first girl doesn't like other girl so first girl makes up stories about other girl to make herself look good.

I'm talking slander. 

I'm talking a former (not recent former, but distant former) close friend that has since been well deposed from my circle rearing her mouth full of venom and lies against not only myself, but on the ones I love the most.

And that pissed me off. Oh I was so angry. I get a little crazy when it comes to those I love. I take the reputations of those in my heart seriously and I go hard to defend them.

And I wanted to confront her. I wanted to tell her how I really felt about her. But after some prayer and deep breaths (and a barrage of cuss words...and a hot shower), I decided not to even entertain it.

After all, gossip is centered on a bunch of nastiness; it's a cesspool of hearsay and lies with a drop of truth mixed in. And who wants to even get into that? Gross.

Let me tell you guys somethings about gossip:

-Gossip is the sad deposit of a poor life poorly lived about lives that are well lived. Like seriously, who even has the time to talk about what others are doing? I barely have enough time in the day to get done what I need to everyday. I don't have time to concoct any stories or even listen to any stories about other people when I'm trying to live my best life. Time is short. Time is fleeting. Time is life. Time, when wasted, is lost. Therefore, I'm going to waste my most valuable asset on things that at the end of the day A) don't matter and B) don't better me.

-The root of most gossip is usually some form of jealousy. Most times when people are gossiping, it is because something within them is jealous about the person they are gossiping about, and they feel that they have finally found something wrong with that person. Does that sound appealing? No, no one wants to be that jealous person. 

-Gossip is also a form of cowardice. Think about it: if you have SUCH a big problem with what a particular individual is doing, why not go directly to that person? Seriously. Why talk about people behind their back if you've got the guts to go talk to their face? See my problem?

Gossip is not the language of winners, it is the uttering a of losers.

Don't be a loser.

Don't gossip. 

Be grown up and either keep it at the source or keep your mouth shut. 

Have you been a victim of gossip? Let's talk about it! Comment below.

Friday, January 29, 2016

Friday Find: Monster Madness

As you guys already know, I'm a fan of the Fendi monster trend. But in very much not a fan of paying $500+ for a Pom Pom with googly eyes. But since last year, more affordable versions of these fluffy, glaring fashion pieces. 

This week's Friday Find is full of Monster Madness. Enjoy!

Friday Find: Monster Madness

Pattern flat

Karl lagerfeld bag

FOSSIL purse bag

Seok pu backpack

Zip tote bag

Zip close bag

FRR black key ring

Aspinal of London accessory
$50 -

Skinnydip tech accessory
$17 -

Why Wait White Pants

White wide leg pants are so simple and easier to wear than you may think. Most people don't think of wearing white before spring, but the way I look at it is of God didn't want us wearing white in winter, why does He cover the earth in it? Facts are crumby rules like "No white after Labor Day" are antiquated and ill advised (I mean cmon, haven't you seen some slaying winter white outfits before?)

So, for today's office ready look, I snagged these pants and paired them with a unique sweater and grey ankle boots. I finish the look with a unique coat, shades, and a stand out bag for a great winter work week ending outfit. Happy Friday loves!

Why Wait White Pants

Lapel coat

Gray boots
$45 -

Tote handbag

Cat eye glasses

Reclaimed Readables, January 30th

Happy happy Friday readers and friends!

Today's Readables feature a tips for a successful weekend wardrobe declutter, a month to month home home makeover to be proud of, the coolest beauty line launch, wine parings for Girl Scout cookies (yes!), contouring for darker skintones, the beginners guide to face oils, time management skills to master early in adulthood, how to make your parka cute, signs you're the Carrie of your friends, and unexpected lip colors celebrities love. 

A Pair and A Spare: Weekend wardrobe declutter
My Domaine: The 12 month home makeover
Refinery 29: The just launched beauty line for cool kids, Girl Scout cookie wine parings
Byrdie: Contouring darker skin tones
The Cut: Beginners guide to face oils
Career Girl Daily: Time management for grown ups
WhoWhatWear: Parka outfits, signs you're the Carrie Bradshaw of your friends
Huff Post Style: Unexpected lip colors celebs love

Thursday, January 28, 2016

Thursday Tartan Chic

I have a thing for dressed up patterns, and Tartan is one of my favorites to make work ready. This skirt is a gorgeous example of an easier piece to wear into the office, once you put the right pieces with it. Today, I've paired it with a grey turtleneck, black tights, and grey suede ankle boots for an office appropriate look. I then added a cozy structured grey coat, mirrored shades, a sophisticated bag and topped the look off (pun intended) with a grey floppy felt hat. Happy Thursday loves!

Thursday Tartan Chic

EAST grey top
$50 -

Slim coat

Falke tight
$43 -

WithChic grey shoes
$46 -

Grey handbag
$43 -

H M gray hat
$17 -

Now on sale: January 28th

Welcome to the next new segment on The Reclaimed, Now On Sale, better known as "please help me clear out my over stuffed closet."

Being an avid thrifter/consigner/resaler, I've amassed a number of beautiful, high end items over the years, but it's time to seriously purge and send these beauties to good, fashionable homes. 

So, from here on out, Thrifty Thursday will be dedicated to me sharing the good stuff with you all. 

Want to get your hands on something awesome? Just click the link below each of the items to nab yours. 

Here's what's up for this week:

Dooney & Bourke Pouch

Coach Medium Size Soho Tote

Orla Kiely Midi Boulevard Tote

Michael Kors Wallet

Tiffany & Co. Infinity Necklace

J Crew Rhinestone Necklace

J Crew Beaded Necklace

Marc Jacobs Sunglasses

Liz Claiborne Shades

Michael Kors Belt

Christian Dior Tie

Michael Kors Ankle Boots

Sergio Rossi Slingbacks

Coach Mules

Kate Spade Pearl Flats

Which of these was your fave? Comment below!