Friday, April 28, 2017

Best Posts of Spring 2017

This Spring has been amazing for fashion and affordable style.

Whether it was the explosion of maximalism that we see in everything from sneaker art to embroidery on, well damn near everything, to the more demure pieces that were given contemporary updates, like treggings, ballet flats that are so on pointe (see what I did there). And we have found some amazing pieces for $50

Starting Monday, May 1st, we are directing our attention on Summer and all the good stuff that comes with it.

Here are the best posts from Spring. Enjoy and happy Friday, loves!

Spring Date ideas
16 Dresses I am crushing on
Ruffle Tops
Asymmetrical Skirts
Lace Up Leggings
PJ Pieces
Bow Slides
Embroidered pieces
Ballet flats
Floral sneakers

Which post was your fave? Which one could you have done without? Drop me a comment below!

Reclaimed Readables, April 28th

Happy Friday loves and lovelies!

Today's Readables feature 23 movies to watch when the patriarchy is getting you down, where you can donate your beauty products and clothes, the perfect bra for large chests, the ugly cool trend now taking over your pants, Misty Copeland surprises these ballerinas (and it will make your day) and a super cute button pillow DIY you can master this weekend.

A Pair and A Spare: DIY chic round pillow
Huff Post: Misty Copeland surprised these ballerinas
The Cut: The perfect bra for big boobs, ugly cool pants
Fashionista: Where to donate clothes and beauty products
BuzzFeed: 23 movies to watch when the patriarchy sucks

Thursday, April 27, 2017

Reclaimed Readables, April 27th

Happy Thursday, my chic little cheap skates.

This week's money saving Readables edition features financial advice from a woman who retired at 28, major spring trends under $100, home decor under $30, how to by good cheap wine, pricey smelling drugstore body washes, expensive looking bedroom hacks, and how to DIY your own charcoal bath bombs and marble soap.

My Domaine: Financial advice from a woman who retired at 28
The Zoe Report: Spring trends under $100
Refinery29: Home decor under $29, cheap wine buying tricks, pricey smelling drugstore body wash
Buzzfeed: Expensive looking bedroom hacks
Apartment Therapy: DIY charcoal bath bombs and marble soap

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

#EditYourLife: Entitlement

To me, there are few things worse than entitlement. 

Entitlement being defined by Merriam-Webster as "...the condition of having a right to have, do, or get something, the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges)."

This one is going to be a quick one, but I know you will get the point. So let's edit.

There are things you ARE entitled to:
You are entitled to your pay check, but only when you have a job
You are entitled to be treated as a human being, but you should also think about how you treat others.
You are entitled to services you have paid for, but don't forget the people who are serving you.
You are entitled to special acknowledgment, but only when you do something worthy of it (like actually winning something, working hard and performing outstandingly, not just for general participation. There are no participation trophies in real life.)

But you are not entitled to everything:
This basically falls under everything else you didn't work for.

It is sad, but my generation gets the worse reputation for this. And while we could blame our parents, society and everything else, the truth is that, if we dare to call ourselves adults, we need to take a good hard look at how we live our lives and craft them into something worthy of the title of adult. Meaning, wherever we find the spirit of entitlement rising in our actions, in our words, in our dealings daily, we have to combat it with a spirit of humility.

Approaching life with humility, not thinking lower (or higher) about yourself, but viewing yourself soberly and clearly, you are more apt to find what you are looking for. Where people are repulsed by entitlement, people respect humility, people welcome humility, people gravitate toward humility.

The long and the short:
Everything we are entitled to comes with a stipulation on our part: We are only entitled to the things we work for. That's it. 

My personal belief is that The spirit of entitlement is of the worst traits in humanity. It causes us to do some of the worst things. It makes us treat each other so, so poorly.

The spirit of entitlement makes someone steal things. 
The spirit of entitlement abuses an animal or a child because they feel bigger. 
The spirit of entitlement rapes a woman because it wanted power over someone. 
The spirit of entitlement robs a continent of its people and its people of its culture.
The spirit of entitlement clears a land of its inhabitants because "manifest destiny". 
The spirit of entitlement sees our own humanity and denies the humanity of another. 

The spirit of entitlement must go. Time to do better.

What did you think of this #EditYourLife? Agree? Disagree? I want to hear from you. Drop a comment below!

Reclaimed Readables, April 26th

Happy Wednesday my loves!

Today's Readables feature how to do a phone detox without ditching your phone, a summery DIY clutch, should we boycott SheaMoisture, the best barrettes for large chests, Essence Magazine latest feature on 100 woke women, five black owned head wrap companies, and everything Kendrick Lamar actually says about women on DAMN.

Well+Good: How to phone detox without ditching your phone
Refinery29: Best head wrap companies, everything Kendrick Lamar actually says about women on DAMN
Huff Post: Essence Mag features 100 woke women
The Cut: Should we boycott SheaMoisture, best bralette for big chests
Honestly WTF: DIY summer clutch

Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Trend Alert: Bow Shoes Under $50

Is there anything more quintessentially feminine than a pretty soft bow? I don't think so. And it seems recently, they have been making appearances on anything, especially footwear. From heels to flats and even sneakers, bows are in and I personally love it.

Here are my picks for the bow trend for the coming seasons, all under $50.

Enjoy and happy ShoesDay loves!
Trend Alert: Bow Shoes Under $50

Sam Edelman blue shoes

Miss Selfridge pink pumps

ASOS slip on shoes
$32 -

Pointed toe shoes

New Look slip on shoes
$23 -

Liliana slip on shoes

Reclaimed Readables, April 25th

Happy #TuesdayShoesDay loves!

This week's foot friendly feature includes over 25 pairs of inexpensive sandals, comfy heels under $50, get yourself up on sneaker slang, see the newest macaroon looking Flyknits, the new sneaker trend perfect for summer, and five pairs of Spring Shoes that will be on your spring footwear rotation.

5 must have Spring Shoes
The new Flyknit Nikes
Sneaker slang
The Sneakerdrilles trend
Comfy heels under $50
Over 25 pairs of inexpensive sandals

Monday, April 24, 2017

Best Menswear Posts of Spring

Spring is upon us.

Whether you're in a warm weather wonderland, dodging allergens while hiding behind new shades,  or stomping through rainy streets, all that Spring is has been unfolded and we (most of us, anyway) are enjoying it.

I mean, personally, anything is better than the frigid temps that kept us bound in parkas and snow boots.

In honor of the beautiful change of seasons, here are the best Spring posts thus far here on The Reclaimed.

Enjoy handsome!

Best Rain Boots under $100

Embroidered jackets for cheap

Best Mens Watches under $50

WTH Gucci

Best Men's Shades under $50

(Men)lennial Pink

Reclaimed Readables, April 24th

Happy Monday beauts and beaus!

This week's #ManCrushMonday features frequently asked menswear questions (and more importantly, answers), the best dive watches for every budget, how to get fit without a gym membership, what actually happens when you increase your workouts, how to achieve the gentry look, and the weirdest looks from Coachella.

GQ: Frequently asked menswear questions, weird style from coachella
Dappered: The best dive watches
Menswear Style: Getting fit without a gym, what happens during all those workouts, achieving the gentry look

Thursday, April 20, 2017

Reclaimed Readables, April 21st

Happy Friday beauts and beaus!

Today's Readables feature the affordable collection petite girls will love, editor picks from Zara under $50, money saving hacks, over 30 surprisingly affordable gorgeous dresses, 21 fierce feminists to follow on Instagram, and 25 famous women talk fear.

The Cut: 25 famous women on fear
Huff Post: 21 fierce feminist to follow on Instagram
BuzzFeed: Over 30 affordable fancy dresses, money saving hacks
The Zoe Report: Under $50 picks from Zara
Refinery29: The affordable new collection petite girls will love

Real Deal: Lace Up Leggings

To say that Rihanna and PUMA's new Fenty releases will be the items of the Spring and Summer are kind of an understatement. And I am not just talking footwear. The lace up stretch legging is one piece that is highly sought after and oddly inexpensive.

But if spending $140 on a pair of leggings isn't your cup of matcha, then check out the five pairs I have chosen, all well under Fenty's asking price and equally as stylish.

You're welcome, happy Thursday loves!

Real Deal: Lace Up Leggings

Puma brown pants
$140 -

Puma green pants

Forever 21 zipper pants

ASOS high waisted pants
$19 -

Tic Toc slim pants

High waisted legging

Forever 21 cotton pants

Reclaimed Readables, April 20th

Happy Thursday beauts and beaus!

Today's Readables feature how to perfectly pair your neutrals, a linen tie top to DIY for, major money fails to avoid in your 20's, how one drugstore brand tricked millennials in the best way, and how your favorite budget beauty brand is heading to your favorite drugstore.

A Pair and A Spare: Pairing neutrals, Linen tie top DIY
Career Girl Daily: Major money mistakes made in our 20s
The Cut: How this drugstore brand tricked millennials in the best way
Refinery29: Your favorite beauty brand is headed to your favorite drugstore

Wednesday, April 19, 2017

Edit Your Life: Your views on my submission

I had a very interesting conversation with a male friend the other day. This particular friend often goes on rants about my faith, particularly how it has traditionally treated women. As a matter of history, I agree, Christianity and most faiths to be honest, have treated women terribly. But one element of the discussion I strongly disagree with was when we began to discuss submission.

Now, for the record, I am a raging feminist. I strongly believe that women can do anything men can do. I believe in the equality of the genders.

That being said, the older I get, the more I believe in an order of things, a balance that can be struck to achieve harmony. And submission helps achieve this order and balance.

Submission is defined as "the condition of being humble, or obedient."

You can submit to anything from the teacher in whom's class you sit to the doctor whose advice you take to your hairstylist who you let near your crown with harmful things and she turns your hair into a masterpiece all the way up to God, in whom I trust to lead my life.

For the purpose of this Edit, we are talking submission strictly in romantic relationships.

There is a level of either established trust or credibility for anyone you submit to. It is incredibly difficult to submit to someone you don't know or don't trust.

The same is incredibly true for relationships. It's damn near impossible to trust a man who is incapable of leading himself anywhere. And if you cannot trust him, you simply cannot submit to him.

My first lady at my church says it best: "Submission is easy when headship is right." This is a principle I have held on to. If anyone wants you to be submissive to them, particularly a man, he must  recognize the sacrifice that is made when a woman does submit herself, respect that sacrifice, and prove himself worthy of that trust. When a man has proven that he can take care of himself and you, not because you are incapable of caring for yourself, but in honor of who you are as his woman, that is when submission becomes easier for a woman.

So, let's edit:

No, my faith is not demanding that I be submissive.
But I call upon my faith to teach me how to be submissive. Before I am submissive to anyone, I am submissive to God. Proverbs 3:5-6 says "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." My trust in God allows me to be submissive to Him, the more trust He develops within me, the more I am able to submit. I can trust Him to lead my life because He has shown Himself more than trust worthy over the time I have walked with Him.

In trusting God, in submitting to God's leadership of my life, I submit to His guiding as far as relationships are concerned. Think about how much heartbreak, confusion, and mistakes could we avoid if we simply relied upon God's leading in relationships. If I trust Him to guide my everyday, surely I can trust Him to guide me to the person I am supposed to be with in those days. And if He led me there and led that person there, then, if I really trust Him, I can trust that He has led me to the one worthy of my submission.

No, I don't believe a man is "better" than me to lead.
I have proof of this in my own life. My submission beliefs strictly fall within the context of marriage. There have been many men over the eons of the faith that have abused the intent of the scriptures, applying their own misogyny in order to restrict women. That is true.

But what is also true is that God values women, women like Esther and Deborah who would save their people. Women like Jael who would become a warrior for God's people. Women like Abigail who would be applauded for her wisdom. Women like Mary Magdalene, who would be the first in all of history to proclaim the Gospel of the risen Savior.

My submission to God actually helps me see the equality between the genders. Both men and women have a roll to play. There is a perfect order to things. And there is a responsibility a man must accept if he receives headship, or leadership of a thing. He gets the full weight, the full responsibility of that relationship. In submission, it allows me to support him. In essence, if he is the head, I am the backbone. Not a bad job.

No, no man is forcing me to submit.
But it is my choice. In choosing to marry a particular man, it becomes my choice to

No, Submission isn't for every relationship.
But it is reserved for marriage.

It is not wise to submit to anyone who has not first committed to you.

(I'll just leave that right there.)

Ephesians 5:22-24 says "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." As a wife, it honors God and the husband that we submit to our husband's leading. While  decisions and choices can and should be discussed in a manner that both the husband and wife feel heard and understood, the wife is to defer to her husband.

But guys are also commanded something in this deal. Ephesians 5:25-28 also says "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." Meaning the husband is responsible to God for how he treats his wife. He is commanded to love her as he loves himself. The same way he must care for and value himself is the same way he must care for and value her. God takes it VERY seriously the way a husband treats his wife, so much so that if the husband mistreats her, 1 Peter 3:7 says that his prayers (not hers) will be hindered.

No, my submission isn't making me weak.
It takes great faith in God and great trust in the person you love to submit to him. When it works right, this strength is honored by God and respected by the husband, causing a continuum of trust building and harmony within the relationship.

No, none of this is popular belief, but they are mine. In a society that tells you that you should get married so that that person can make you happy, words like sacrifice, responsibility, and, yes, submission, are incredibly unpopular. I believe that if we get back to those heavy, yet meaningful words and ideals, that we will be better for it.

Let's talk! What do you think about this Edit Your Life? Share away and drop a comment below!

Reclaimed Readables, April 19th

Happy Hump Day, beauts and beaus!

Today's Readables feature how to shape up in four weeks (seriously), the first woman to receive an NCAA Football scholarship, over 50 Black hair experiences that are too real, the best concealers for brown skin ladies, the untold story of your favorite cheap beauty product lines, and the food trend now taking over.

Career Girl Daily: Shape up in 4 weeks
Relevant Mag: The first woman to receive an NCAA Football scholarship
BuzzFeed: Over 50 Black hair experiences that are too real
Refinery29: Best concealers for dark skin tones
Byrdie: Untold story of E.L.F
Man Repeller: Unicorn food is taking over