Friday, December 15, 2017

Reclaimed Readables

Happy Friday beautiful people!

Today's Readables feature how retro brands like Fila, Reebok and Adidas won 2017, your favorite beauty brand is making this shade of lipstick happen, the all woman action movie you should be getting hype about, great gifts under $25, and what the Net Neutrality repeal means for your favorite apps like Instagram and Facebook.

The Cut: What net neutrality means for apps like Instagram
BuzzFeed: 29 gifts under $25
Hello Giggles: Oceans 8
Refinery 29: Fenty Beauty is really going to make green lipstick happen
Fashionista: How retro sportswear won 2017

Thursday, December 14, 2017

When Whiteness Trumps Womanhood

The recent Alabama Senate race was a close call. Too close for comfort. It was a choice between a pretty average Democrat in Doug Jones vs. a proven bigot and accused pedophile (and interestingly enough YMCA and local mall shunned) Roy Moore.

The end result showed Doug Jones as the victor, and a state that had not gone blue in over 20 years now is represented by a Democrat. The deciding blows were dealt by cities like Montgomery and Selma, where Black people showed up en mass and not dealing with the foolery. Once again, Black people saved the day.

But while everyone was high-fiving Black People (particularly Black Women) for saving the state of Alabama from being on the wrong side of history, another thought was rising from the masses; what the hell is wrong with White Women? After looking at the polls, I shared the following:

Seriously, y'all? 63% of White Women thought Roy Moore, a man who used the Bible to justify courting middle school girls when he was 30 years old and thinks America's best times were when his  people owned other people? That guy, ladies?

As you can see, the world was once again made right by the Browns, and my ladies didn't disappoint, voting for decency, forward progress, and to protect White Girls all over the nation from pedophiles. You're f-ing welcome. But no one is surprised because Black Women also voted in the last presidential election. 94% of us voted against the orange vagina grabber while 53% of White Women actually voted for him.

Now, before you turn your "this is so antifeminist" or "this is divisive"speeches on me, please remember 2 things:
1) Feminism doesn't mean women sit in a circle and sing "KumByYa"and are nice to the point of uselessness to each other. Feminism is the belief that men and women are equals. And we have to equally do the introspective work of analyzing ourselves. So save me the tears.

2) Instead of launching the above tired rhetoric on me, you might want to direct that energy towards your fellow White sisters. Maybe, instead of just elevating Black Women for doing the right thing and not electing pedophiles, bigots, racists, and otherwise deplorable humans to the highest offices in the nation (yall really do not deserve us), maybe you should do what we often do and look thoughtfully  as a people and say "Hey Karen/Carol/Allison/Becky, why did you think it was ok to vote against your own self interest?" Or just stop hanging out with people who continually put the nation's future in peril.

If you need further inspiration for this, look back to your Black sisters. We are good for revoking people's Black cards when their allegiances to the culture look a little shaky with a Michelle Obama side eye so sharp, it cuts through all the BS before anything is even spoken.

Let's use Omarosa Manigault for an example. Her behind lost her Black card so long ago, even with the accuracy of Beyoncé's concert ponytail, it might not be found. None of us were surprised to see Omarosa buddied up with Don Cheeto. None of us leapt to back her poor choice candidate for president. And now that she has been fired (yet again) by the Don, none of us dropped a single tear for her. You reap what you sow. And if you sow unfaithfulness to your own people, don't expect to return from those you left us for and expect any kind of welcome. We will pull a Mariah Carey on her so fast.


That is what happens when you do something counter to the health and help of our people. So, if you know your grandmother is racist, if you know your cousin has a confederate flag collection, if you know your friend actually owns and wears her MAGA hat, if you know a woman who continues this pattern of voting against her own self interests (and the interests of all vagina carriers), why would y'all continue to break bread with her? Why don't you call her out? Why don't you address the ridiculousness? Why is it up to other groups to do the hard introspection that you, as a group, as a "sisterhood" do the work and figure this out?

 Let me tell you something that Black Women have known all along: There are no Knights in shining armor. No man will be coming to save you. And maybe, instead of relying on Black Woman to be your heroes, White Women, why don't you become you own heroes? Stop waiting for someone to come rescue you and rescue your own selves.

Just my 2 cents.

Reclaimed Readables

Greetings and salutations, great people.

Today's Readables feature 9 common credit card myths debunked, 14 easy money tricks that will save you a lot of money, exactly how to create an emergency fund, a guide to the  different 7 types of investments, the 1 thing missing from your budget, how money makes friendships weird, and how to not argue about finances over the holidays.

The Cut: How money makes friendship weird, how to make it through the holidays without arguing about money
Apartment Therapy: One thing missing from your budget
My Domaine: Exactly how much you should have in your emergency fund, 7 types of investments to know
The EveryGirl: 9 myths about credit cards debunked, 14 easy tricks that'll save you a ton of money

Wednesday, December 13, 2017

TWMBABW: Alexia Azogu and MILEStone Pros

Today's feature is one I can truly call a friend. We met in the midst of an exciting time in the life of a thriving ministry in our huge church, a pairing I feel was definitely a divine connection. We have inextricably linked ever since, bouncing faith and finance and feminist and family and friendship ideas off of each other. 

She's hilarious and honest, stylish and sharp, witty and wise, and I am beyond proud of her phoenix like rise from the ashes of life curves and glass ceilings, and I cannot wait to see what God will do through her.

Today's feature is Alexia Azogu of Milestone Pros, LLC.

Alexia Azogu is a career coach and her consultancy, MILEStone Pros is the get yo' life consultancy the industry needs. "We are a Professional Evolution Agency, focused on offering: Recruitment Services, Job Placement, Career Coaching & Customer/Associate Engagement Solutions.

Alexia lives by many words, but the ones closest to her heart  she shares with us. "I have 2 slogans really: "Your Breakthrough is Here" & "#evolutionNprogress"."

What led Alexia to entrepreneurship? "Infidelity & death!!!" she says emphatically. But it's not the infidelity you think. Alexia felt like she was cheating on herself. "For years I cheated on my first love; I chose what I thought were better options over her, I neglected her, and I didn't make her a priority. Then this past March 2017 I experienced a loss. I was let go from my job, where I excelled for several years, winning awards, bonuses, and repeatedly recognized for my teams performance. for literally 1 second I was devastated, then I walked out those doors, the sun hit my face and I knew I was FREE!!! #MilestoneMoment!"

"I simply love motivating & coaching." Alexia says about MILEStone. "Helping people reach their maximum potential whether it's as an individual or a corporate organism, it's my passion. I've utilized my skills providing these services in a corporate capacity and for friends, family and others for years. I've mastered the art of communication; empowering others to see and aspire to reach his/her purpose. We are all going to shift at some point in time throughout our lives, especially professionally and that's where we come in, to help people evolve and create Milestone Moments."

Alexia's prime product? "Career Coaching; I really enjoy getting to know my "gemstones" (my clients). I enjoy hearing their stories & understanding the reason they chose me to support their professional needs."

When asked what being a Black Woman Entrepreneur means to her, Alexia says "To me, black women business owners means evolution & empowerment! Women, especially black women, are constantly creating "life" whether it's in the literal or figurative sense we at birthing new and innovative business solutions, ideas, and remedies. While we have more to achieve in the realm of equality, we cannot negate the progress."

"2 friends of mine and I started a FB group Black Women Business Owners, in less that 1yr we are 900+ members strong, growing daily. This is a place of encouragement and promotion. Our group represents the diversity, sophistication, but mostly talented sistas making all kinds of extraordinary strides."

You can follow Alexia's Milestone pros here and link up with her here.

Reclaimed Readables

Happy Hump Day beautiful people!

Today's Readables feature 16 cute oversized sweaters to live in this winter, 13 puffer jackets that don't add bulk, over 40 gifts for the feminist in your life who is reclaiming her time, why these two fashion Instagrammers quarrel raises some troubling questions about social media, and my favorite beauty brand's newest lipstick launch.

Refinery29: Fenty Beauty Lipstick launch
The Cut: Why these two nearly identical fashion Instagrammers are arguing
Hello Giggles: 45 gifts for the feminist who is reclaiming her time
Huff Post: 16 cute oversized sweaters to live in, 13 women's puffer jackets that don't add bulk